a different sort of post……

I don’t often post my opinions, much less stuff having to do with sports, but this one truly touched me……


34 thoughts on “a different sort of post……

  1. And quoting Audre Lourde! How cool! Good for the player, and good for the announcer! I too lost friends back in the plague days – it was horrible. We still have a long way to go. Great video you found, Gunta!


  2. Thank you for posting this Gunta, the inablility for me to be who I am nearly cost me my life, you can’t not be who you are without it having a huge psychological impact and I applaud this young man’s stand! I grew up in a man’s man type of family where being gay was probably the worst thing you could possibly be, so I didn’t tell anyone until I had a stark choice, stop the drinking (that had taken my career and the fabulous opportunties I had there) or die. I was given 6 weeks if I didn’t stop so I opened up to someone who said it was OK to be me, the first time in my life I’d heard that. It’s quite a different world now to the one I grew up in but only because others did have the courage to stand up for who they were.. How I wish now I’d had that courage too. Ridiculous when I think back but when I hit my early twenties, the gay plague had hit the headlines. The 80’s were not kind to people like me in their early twenties, trying to get to know who they were. Even now I struggle to be so open.


    • I’ve never really understood homophobia. But then I’ve had the advantage of having some wonderful openly gay friends in my early years. I have a hard time understanding the sanctimonious religious stance against gays. Those who see it as a “choice”. The high suicide rates ought to be a clue to some of these folks, but they are apparently blinded by the “light”…. sad. But it’s good to see things moving in the right direction… even if some of it is kicking and screaming. 😉


  3. I had recently seen this and commend this man for speaking so openly about such a divisive topic. This is some of the best commentary I have heard in a long time. I hope to see the day when embracing diversity becomes the “norm”.


    • I was so impressed with this guy’s way of stating the issues that I decided I had to post it. I thought it was brilliant bringing up the atrocities that are tolerated compared to something that ought to be accepted rather than scorned.


  4. Bravo for that commentator! He got it absolutely right; he summarized the status of gays and our fight for equality very well.

    NFL players can do anything legal or illegal, except man up to their own attitudes about manhood and its privileges and abuses. Any offense against women is okay. Any offense against animals is okay. Having a gigantic man say “it would make me uncomfortable…” Really? Thanks Gunta for this post. Well done.


  5. I can only say that in some sense i see a victory….we are at least in a place on this issue, where the neanderthal response of the NFL seems so unseemly, so backward, that it is almost laughable…Almost…the pain we continue to inflict on good people hurts deeply still.


  6. I saw that story as well and thought the young football player was very brave and sweet. I graduated from the University of Missouri and grew up in the Midwest before moving to San Francisco at the age of 22 where I lived for 40 years before retiring in Oregon.

    During that time no on I knew in Missouri was openly gay, so one of the biggest initial adjustments for me was San Francisco’s large, active gay community. It seemed over 50% of my co-workers were gay men and the gay community had a huge influence in the city and even their own neighborhood – The Castro. They were loyal, fun, caring, and gentle people and I became very close to many of them – especially after surviving a traumatic divorce. At that time (early 1970s) the gay community in San Francisco was very promiscuous (believe me that word doesn’t even begin to describe it) – thinking about some of the things I saw for myself and heard about their bath houses and clubs till makes me blush. Thank goodness I wasn’t involved in that aspect of the gay world. It was not about one loving partner but having as many sexual partners as possible. Then came AIDS and with it an abrupt change in behavior – 90% of my gay friends died a painful death during a horrifyingly sad time in San Francisco.

    I’m not sure how many people have had as intimate an experience as I did in the gay world but it clearly puts a different spin on things. Today, life in the gay community has changed and with it so have values and behavior. I’m happy to see those changes and glad it’s easier to be open about being gay. I support gay marriage and other gay rights but if we were to go back to the early 1970s in San Francisco – not sure I would feel the same.


    • Working restaurants in the 60s while I went to school in Boston, I got to know quite a few in the gay community. They were some of the best friends a girl could have. The behavior you speak of sounds like much the same that some of the hippies went through. Some folks just seem to get carried away and go nuts with that first taste of freedom. I, too, lost some wonderful friends during the Aids. I knew quite a few with loving partners, but they were also dealing with the issues that come with being outcasts in society. It was never an easy life back in the day…. Yes, even in the Castro.


  7. I watched this commentary on another blog not two minutes ago. Fantastic! There’s hope for Texas after all. Crossing my fingers that most folks in the NFL share the enlightened views of this sportscaster.


    • I’m rather doubtful that the NFL will be this enlightened, but I truly admire the courage it must have taken for this kid to come out. I wish him luck (and no concussions.)


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